Is it normal 2 feel what i feel????

OKay well over a period of 3 years i have been n nurmous bad relationships i always get my heart broken. So i vowed 2 watch myself and never give my heart up 2 quickly so i take a second and review the guy iam gonna date...... NOw im the one that is breaking their hearts.... its like everytime i feel its going good i second guess myself and i feel that guy is gonna cheat on me, n da past i always been cheatin on, so im afriad of that, so i break it off with them..... now my relationship hardly last a week or 2... and people think im just n it 4 da sex or looks but they r so wrong because i dont have sex with them cuz i dont feel ready and looks r just skin deep.. Am i a freak 4 feeling like this??? i was afriad of my heart gettin broken again now i am the one breakin the hearts!!!! is this normal???? someone shed sum light please,....

Is it normal 2 feel what i feel????
There really is no solution. If someone is going to break someone else's heart they will do so. I was in a relationship for 5 years and it ended when I caught him cheating for the 3rd time.





I figured I didn't want to be in a relationship with someone that didn't want me. So I moved on.





To minimize this, I have always made friends first. Friendship is where you build a solid foundation based on trust and loyalty. Once you have then, then you can build your relationship on that.





It is no guarantee against heartbreak, but it will be harder to hurt a partner that is also your best friend.





This works for me, but you have to find the way that works best for you. Good luck.
Reply:Getting your heart broken, and breaking hearts, is all part of dating and trying to find the right person. Don't beat yourself up for it; the fact that it bothers you to hurt others means that you're a caring person. I just hope you're not breaking things off too early because you're afraid of getting attached; otherwise you might miss out on the right guy.
Reply:You just "built a wall" around yourself. Trust me, I once was a master at it. It's normal for you to feel the way you do but at some point you will have to start trusting again and start opening yourself up to others again. It will happen. It just takes time.





You at least recognize what you are doing so that's half the battle of being able to change....when your ready.