Saturday, April 24, 2010

Great 2nd Date says he wants marriage someday soon, but chases other girls ?

So Im in shock. I just had a second date that lasted 8 hours.


The first date lasted 7 hours.


ABout a month apart.


I was friends with the guy before dating him and then friends between both our dates.


He kissed me a long time last night and I thought we had a great time connecting.


Well he just made contact 2 days later with me.


He let me know up front that in joking manner that he was going afte rand flirting with other girls with his friends last night.


He is 32 and I'm 30. When we first became friends and went on 1 st date he said how he wants to get married someday soon.


Now after our 2nd long personal date he is talking about flirting wiht other girls ?


He even jokingly called them his pet projects.


Should I even keep him as a friend ?


Im so shocked.


i have serious feelings and this hurts so much. i feel like jumping out of my skin.


he told me for last two weeks how important i am.

Great 2nd Date says he wants marriage someday soon, but chases other girls ?
dump him





he sounds like he will hurt you again.





EXACTLY too much drama 2nd date?





imagine how much drama the 10th or 20th date will bring.





to say nothing of the hurt or pain.





find someone who is true and really to Only you.





some one with some quoth and a lot more class.


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Reply:2 Dates and he has already showed you his true colors.............MOVE ON AND FAST!
Reply:He scared himself... he is trying to save face now.





He realized he was getting too serious about you too soon, sounds like to me. Give him space, don't rush. Don't mention the word marraige for a while to come.
Reply:I know how you feel. He might have just been trying to make you jealous - but even so, it was a juvenile thing to say, much less do. Maybe just try to let it go this time, and see if the next couple of dates end better. If something liket his happens again, then you can freak out.
Reply:He's playing mind games. Dump him. He doesn't respect or care about you.
Reply:He is showing you what he will be like in the future. He is 32 and still hasn't grown up....to bad...Move on before you get hurt real bad......
Reply:He is definitely not ready. It's best to break the ties before you get emotionally hooked on him. He is obviously still looking. The Bible says that a man that finds a wife finds a good thing. There's no need to look further if you're the one for him. Set him free!
Reply:Most likely is just trying to make you jealous but, if he likes you really then he won't keep on doing it.
Reply:Look how much drama you're going through, and you've only gone on two dates! Why would you want to do this to yourself. It is early enough for you still were it won't hurt as much, and it won't be as hard, to walk away.





Actually run away- quickly. Anbody can tell you something, but they can always show you better- and he's shown you what's up.
Reply:slow your roll girl!!! It's the second date -- give it some time to see what he is really all about....
Reply:Only the 2nd date, now you know how he is, so move on and find other men to date and go out with. Have nothing to do with this guy who takes women for granted... he just is a friend and has told you his true nature....
Reply:red flag time to move on
Reply:You don't need that crap...move on!
Reply:It's too bad you are leading with your feelings instead of your head. His behavior is, to put it mildly, disrespectful and immature. (He probably thinks of it as a kind of bragging that will impress you--it impresses me just about the way it impressed you--ugly!!)You really don't need that sort of a fella in your life, do you? One of the few things we know about him is that he lies like a rug--you are important to him and he's chasing skirts? He needs to get a grip!
Reply:If you are only going on dates like once a month, its obviously not a serious relationship. Kissing??





Obviously this guy is not marriage material.
Reply:the guy is an insecure player... yeah.. he's trying to make you jealous so you throw yourself at him.. it will make his ego explode. i say tell the douche to pound sand.. you dont deserve that crap.
Reply:Two great dates are just that, two great dates. While what he said was insensitive, you don't yet have a claim to him, and he may have been testing out the waters to see how you reacted because he was scared of creating expectations too soon. Just ask him straight out what he wants from you, you owe it to yourself to see if your eventual goals are compatible.
Reply:My opinion...it is a bit presumptious on your part after only a 2nd date a month after the 1st date to assume he meant to marry you. Afterall, if he was that interested, the 2nd date would have occurred must quicker than 1 month after the first date
Reply:I don't think you guys are on the same page. He sees you as a friend, possibly with benefits, if not now, then soon. Telling you he can see himself married opens you up to him. Keep yourself at a comfortable distance till you know his true intentions. Just because you made out with him once doesn't mean you have to continue to do so. Have respect for yourself and your body, and don't let him into your emotions so quickly. You'll see what you need to see if you keep your eyes open and your heart guarded.


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